Your boys are beautiful! The youngest one looks just like you :) What does their papa look like, if its ok to ask?
Thank you. I don’t have permission to post a photo but I would say that their father looks a lot like my oldest child.
I'm sorry I have to ask this, but what differentiates what is cultural appropriation and what isn't?
I feel like many people don’t understand what cultural appropriation is because they see themselves as simply enjoying another culture as well as expressing themselves. For the dominant culture to be able to do this, it is an exercise of privilege because various ethnic attire and style are often stigmatized. Many people would argue - “Well hey, minority cultures wear Western clothes and have Western hairstyles too!” When a minority culture adopts a style from the dominant culture, it is for survival. For example, wearing a collared shirt and slacks to a job interview yields a greater chance of getting a job than wearing something traditional. Basically, everyone is forced into assimilating into Western society or else we die. When the dominant culture adopts a style from a minority culture, it is for pleasure. The dominant culture is not constantly reminded that their culture is inferior and they don’t have to change the way they look, speak, or behave to be given respect or to survive. I think most Westerners get their actions confused with “cultural exchange.” Unlike cultural appropriation, which is harmful, cultural exchange is fine (and inevitable part of life, really). Cultural exchange is a mutual exchange between both cultures - something that is not forced. For example, it’s super awesome when people want to wear Native made regalia in appropriate ways and spaces. As for what is damaging and constitutes cultural appropriation, I’m not an expert but I think it’s a good idea to listen to marginalized cultures about how wearing/doing something stigmatizes them socially and to understand the history (stealing, exploiting, and misunderstanding) behind it. In a nutshell, there is a power imbalance between the colonized and the colonizers that still exists today so anytime something from another culture is misrepresented, it can have very real and negative consequences for the entire race of people. Pointing out cultural appropriation isn’t anything personal and it alone does not necessarily make the person who does it an evil human being. I hope this helps out and makes things about cultural appropriation easier to understand. I appreciate the question very much. Let’s all keep striving to be decent human beings.
Lana Del Rey, Queen of Cultural Appropriation
As much as Lana Del Rey’s music appeals to the sad romantic part of me, I find her so-called fashion choices for music videos to be straight up annoying. First it was the warbonnet she wore in her music video, “Ride” and now she is dressed up like a Latina gangster in her art/music video “Tropico.” Sigh. Whatever. I want to love you, Lana Del Rey, but you are annoying as hell so I can’t. Stahp it!
Ding! Bright Idea.
Instead of using my Twitter (@kelona) primarily for complaining, I think I will start writing micropoetry on it.